Tuesday, 15 July 2014

A Journey: Analogy of A Relationship

Someone very special recently told me that I use good, practical analogy to present my views/opinions of anything, especially in areas about relationship etc. Not to brag but I really think I do LOL. I don't know how, but its probably due to my exposures in tutoring in college or training of new employees at works, requiring me to give practical real-life examples as a more effective way to explain on something instead of the usual I-say-you-listen style.

Coming to explain about the way to handle relationship matters, you can have 1001 ideas to present your views really but who are we to judge which way is better than the other? Each relationship situation & condition is different & that itself, requires us to have different ways to handle them. Imagine this analogy, being in a relationship is like being on a road journey to outstation with your partner. Lessons to learn:-



(1) Knowing you will be on outstation road trip, you ensure your car will be in good working condition & you have standby accessories such as jack/tyre changing kits/water bottle etc. Safety is always be made a priority. You yourself need to be in good physical condition to drive, if you're not, either get your partner to drive or postpone it to other day or get other transport alternatives
(2) Not everyone can talk all day long during the journey. Look to keep yourself & your partner occupied throughout the journey to avoid getting tired & boring. You may listen to music & your partner may read book/listen to music/playing games etc
(3) No one can guarantee there's always sunshine & smooth ride all the way. If it's raining or have traffic jams, no need to get angry over things that beyond your control & you adjust your driving style accordingly
(4) If you notice or feel something is wrong with the car along the way, don't ignore it. Stop & check it out to avoid any problems later. Rectifying it at early stages could save lives
(5) If the car indeed break down, no point complaining & procrastinating for it could results in arguments etc. Calm down & fix the problem of the car first. Find alternatives to continue the journey if car cant be repaired.

Put these road lessons above in explaining the relationship aspects

(1) To get into a relationship, both must be mentally ready. If you or your partner are not ready to commit, don't get into it. Getting used to each other better & time will tells if you are ready into a relationship
(2) Being in a relationship does not guarantee exciting times everyday, especially after a certain period. Do things to keep the sparks alive. Find out your similar interests, or anything that both people can explore together
(3) Being in a relationship does not guarantee happy days together everyday. No point getting angry over each other. Communicate to one another & each of us adjust our ways if need to
(4) If you notice signs of impending problem with your other half, do not ignore it. Communicate with your partner & fix it before it's too late. Rectifying the problem at early stages could save the whole relationship
(5) If indeed problem still happens, no point procrastinate & playing blame game for it will cause situation to get worse. Calm down, sit down together, find out the cause of the problem & fix it TOGETHER. If problem persists & both unable to solve it, do not be afraid to seek outside help from relatives/friends/counselor etc.

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